- Where do you want to start? - Oh my god, you're such a good therapist! (laughs) Is that just like a natural instinct? - Maybe, I guess so. - Clicky. Clicky. Double-clicky.
- Hey, guys, it's me, Hannah Hart, here with Kati Morton! - Hey, guys! - Kati's here with me today to talk about mental health and wellness and to listen as I share my personal mental health journey with you and with an expert. - Yay! - And you're an actual licensed marriage and family therapist? - That is correct. - Wow. - Kati, could you do me a favor and explain to our beautiful Hatrosexuals a bit about your channel and how it works? - Yeah, I put out videos three days a week. Monday is a mental health topic, I'll talk about a diagnosis or something that you have asked and I will answer, Thursdays is an FAQ video, where I pick a question from one of you wonderful people and I answer that, and Saturdays is a journal topic, which I encourage all of my viewers to journal. I talk about how important it is and I offer you a prompt to get you going. - May is mental health awareness month in America, but October 10th is World Mental Health Day, so in honor of World Mental Health Day, I want to share with you guys and with Kati a little bit about my personal mental health journey. I've always been someone who's been very pro talk therapy, but I haven't always been that way.
In fact, when I was a kid, I had to go to court-ordered therapy, where this therapist actually tried to bribe me into talking by offering me food. - That's really messed up. - It's so messed up. Are all therapists like that? - No.
If you go to someone and you just don't click with them or it doesn't quite work, or you're forced and you're like, "Ugh," don't give up, because it takes a while for you to feel comfortable talking to a random stranger about your darkest, deepest secrets, and also, you just have to try out different personalities. We don't get along with everybody, and that's okay, but you have to find someone you feel like, "I like you, I can tell you things, and this will work out." Then the real therapy can begin. - And that's exactly what happened to me. I actually didn't find a therapist that really fit for me until I was like 24, 25, and I had moved to Los Angeles. How much do you think it's finding the right fit and being ready to do the real work? - A lot of it is the click with the person, but if we're already really open and willing to work, we're already more apt to try to make it work with that therapist.
- Do you ever find that people have come to therapy and you see that the work is laid out before them, everybody's ready to go, but they haven't made the decision to really start to try and change the way they perceive and live within their lives? - All the time. - Really? - Yeah, and sometimes I'll even tell people, I'm like, "You know, we've been working really hard, I've been giving you a lot of homework"- I believe in a little therapy homework, not like, "You have to write all this down and do this," but it's like "Try to do this this week and then report back how it felt," and I think that's really important. I think that if they're not willing to do that, then I'll- I believe in direct communication. That's what therapy's about, right? So I'll say, "I've given you these instructions and I find you're just not doing them, so I feel like maybe we should take a break and then when you're ready to start trying, give me a call, because I'm always going to be here, but if you're not ready, you're not ready." - Okay, great.
So that's the first stage of my mental health journey. It's like what I like to think of as mediation, which is just talking with you and yourself and having the therapist be the mediator between you and your personal demons. - I love that analogy. - Thank you.
But, after two years of what I think was really successful therapy, I still found that there were these patterns and habits and ideas about myself that I just couldn't unwind, I couldn't untangle, so I approached my therapist and I was like, "I think, maybe," which was really hard, "see a psychiatrist?," because I'm doing all the work I can but I still feel like there's something I'm not getting. - I think a lot of people feel that it's, like, defeat, like admitting defeat, but the thing that- I know that people disagree- You can disagree all you want in the comments, that's totally fine, but there is factual research and information that tells us that there is an imbalance in our brain or we can be genetically predisposed to have bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety. All those things are things that we may not even have any control over and no matter how many behavioral techniques I give you, you're still going to feel like shit sometimes. So medication can bridge that gap because medication and talk therapy together is like (angelic singing)- It's like the best combination. - So I went in to see the psychiatrist and it was a two-hour session, but what I discovered in that therapy session is that she was like, "Oh, no, you just have ADD." - Oh, really? - ADHD, whatever. - But, yeah, yeah, yeah, feels like anxiety.
- Yeah. - Can feel like depression a little bit. - Yeah. I was like, well, I mean, I was told I have ADD my whole life, but ADD's not really real. If I can just focus, I'll be fine. It's really all about me. I'm a failure and I suck.
- Stigma. - Stigma. And it's true because I just had no idea that ADHD could manifest in this overwhelming, self-hate, depression fog and this crippling anxiety because there's so much you want to do and you just can't figure out what to do first. - It's common for people with ADD or ADHD to not see it as such because we believe it doesn't really exist and I should just focus, or it's way overdiagnosed or it's only in kids or I should've grown out of it by now or all these thoughts that go through your head, where you're like, "That's wrong." That is why it's so important, if you think that you're struggling with something, if you know you're struggling with something, see a professional. We don't just go to school for shits and giggles, we try to learn things so we can help you properly be diagnosed and get the help that you really need. That's what's important. - Let's talk actual pill taking medication. I'm not going to lie.
The first year I took my prescription, I think that she gave me way too much because I found that it slowed everything down. It was awesome, there was definitely this honeymoon period with it, but then over the course, long term, I found that I wasn't having as many ideas, or I wasn't having these bursts of excitement and enthusiasm and energy that I was so familiar with. Everything felt very- - Steady? - Yeah. (laughs) Which was fine, but it didn't feel like me.
I was still very happy, I was just- I needed to find a happy medium. - Yeah, and medication can feel very- especially if you've lived most of your life already without any medication, when you first take it, even for depression, if they put you on an SSRI, people will be like, "I can't cry, and I used to cry all the time. That's like part of me," and we identify some symptoms as part of who we are, and that's totally fine. So you may just not want it to be - and I don't mean this in a bad way- but "fully treated." You kind of want a little of the residual to be there because it helps you feel authentically you. You need a little- - Yeah. - And I think everybody does and that's the problem with medication and why it's so important to communicate this to your psychiatrist or your regular doctor, whoever you're going to get your pills- I recommend a psychiatrist. It's awesome that you did that. A lot of people just go to see a regular doctor.
They specialize, so it's better treatment, but you need to be able to verbalize this to them, so that you get on the proper amount of whatever medications you're on, so your dosage is appropriate for how you want to feel. There's a lot of factors they're going to think about and ask you about, and that's why it's so important to express that to them, so they know that you feel really blunted- that's the word for (flat lining sound). - Blunted. - Blunted. - Blunted. Blunted. Yes. - Where you're like- I just can't.
- Yes, where it's like, "I am interesting, but I don't feel interesting right now." (laughs) - It's true. - Okay, so we've talked about mediation, we've talked about medication, now let's talk about meditation. I'm really into the alliteration. - I know. - What are some tips and tricks for getting started on meditation? - I can't do it on my own, but I'm always recommending and referring my patents to self-help tools, things you can do in group settings, because it not only helps us focus, helps us- I always call it going inside. Being inside yourself and feeling what's going on, and out of that comes a lot of insight and a lot of growth. One of the things I say on my channel all the time, it's a process, not perfection.
Nothing's going to be like, boom, A to B, shoop, I'm there. Yes! It's not like that. It's more like da-da-da-day-da-day-day-da-do-da-to and you're all over the place, so if yoga or meditation, you're like, "bleck," then you come back to me and you're like, "bleck," and I say, "Well, why don't we try this instead?" Maybe you go for a walk and you put on really mellow music from one of your playlists or something and you do it that way, or maybe you journal, or maybe you take these worksheets and you circle- I have these feelings worksheets that my clients hate, but I love it, and I make them circle feelings throughout the day. - Yeah. - So they're like, "Wow, I really did feel angry. That's a thing." - I felt angry all day long.
- Circle, circle, circle, circle. Know that it's not just one thing or no things, it's being honest about where you're at. If you try something you can say, "Hey, meditation doesn't work for me." Then, as a therapist, it's my job to be thinking outside the box and coming up with another thing to try, so we can find what works for you because there's not one prescription for every person. - Okay, now, before I let you go, I have some tips for you. - Ooh! - One, there's a great app called Headspace that I use to get into meditation. Have you ever tried it? - I've heard of it.
One of my clients uses it. - Download Headspace because they have these guided meditations and it's a really great first step, or it really worked for me. Kati, thank you so much for being here. - Yeah, thanks for having me.
- Oh, of course, in your own house. (laughs) Guys, I hope that you have enjoyed this time with Kati as much as I have. If you want to spend more time with Kati, go ahead and subscribe to her channel for new videos three times a week. And if you like me, stick around. I make new videos every Tuesday and Thursday. - And if you ever have any questions or any mental health queries, you can ask in the comments below this video, but I am most apt to below my Monday videos to answer your comments, so if you have a question you can always ask in the comments below this video or my Monday video. That's when I'm more active. Also, I'm on Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook.
I'm all over the interwebs. - All over the interwebs. Links below. Mwah! Have a great day. Woo, that was good!.
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