4 TIPS on HOW TO HELP someone with PTSD military treatment support trauma community

By: Kati Morton

Hey everyone! Today I'm going to talk with you about, how to help a loved one who has PTSD. So, stay tuned I've got four helpful tips coming up. [SHOW THEME TUNE] So like I said today I'm going to talk with you about how to help a loved one struggling with PTSD I've heard from many of you you have family members who have either gone to war, or have been in some kind of traumatic event. It could've been a car accident, it could've been a sexual trauma, that they've just now started opening up to you about, and you wonder how you can better help? Which just shows how amazing our community is. Am I right? That we're all looking to not only help ourselves, but to also find ways to help those who we love, and today I have four quick tips and tricks on the best ways that you can help them.

The first, is be patient and understanding. And I know that kinda goes without saying, but I find a lot of people who struggle with PTSD and their loved ones have a hard time understanding where the other one is at. Overcoming PTSD can take time, it can be really hard. We can feel like we're making like all these steps forward, and then we slide back a little bit. It's like I always say, "It's a process, not perfection," right? And so, it's important for us to be patient and understanding with their process versus maybe yelling at them like, "Hey, stop rehashing the past!" "Why do you have to talk about that all the time?" and understanding that that's where they're at, at the moment. They need to talk it out, so that they can move on and continue moving forward.

The second way that we can help is to try to be aware of their triggers. A lot of people with PTSD have certain triggers that will cause them to go into a PTSD like response, and being aware of that and working to avoid them, or offer extra support during that time can really help. Triggers can be anything from like lets say, loud bangs are a really hard for them to manage, maybe we avoid that fourth of July party with all the fireworks.

That might be a little much for them; or maybe its an anniversary of a certain thing; or maybe it's, you know, going to the ocean. It could be any number of things that trigger that experience in them and being aware and asking them about it, and helping be there for them for some extra support during that time and during those triggers, can really really help them along. The third, and most difficult is don't take Post Traumatic Stress Disorder symptoms personally.

4 TIPS on HOW TO HELP someone with PTSD military treatment support trauma community

I know its really hard. A lot of the common symptoms include isolation, avoiding intimacy. All sorts of things that if we're in a relationship with the person it can be really hard. We may be calling them and they're not calling us back.

We may have plans and they didn't show or they cancel last minute. This may be your husband or wife and they don't want to have sex with us for weeks on end, and we don't understand. "Is it us? What happened?" And we take it personally. Now I know it's hard to not but the best thing we can do is seek to understand. Talk with them.

Say I'm feeling this way, I know maybe it may be part of your process, but this is part of my process. And, working together, to start communicating about each other's experience. This really isn't anything about you This is something you are going through, and the more we seek to understand the better support we can be for them, while they're working through it. The fourth and final tip is to not pressure your loved one into talking about it. I know it's hard and sometimes we want to hear all about it, we want to be there for them and that's part of the reason why they love us and its why we love them. Right? We have this great relationship but having PTSD can make it really hard. And talking about things can be really uncomfortable. So I find the most beneficial thing you can do for them and their recovery is just let them know you're there.

It's like anything we wanna kinda touch base with them and check in. We don't want to hound them We don't wanna force them. So you may say..."I notice you've been a little irritable today and withdrawn, but I'm here you wanna talk." Just reminding them you're there. They may wanna talk, they may not. But it can help for them to just know that they have support. So keep these things in mind. I know that it's difficult I know it's hard to have a loved one going through this.

I know a lot of things we take personally and we think are our fault. [BACKGROUND MUSIC] But know that they're going through a really difficult time and the best thing you can do is just to be there for them. Check in. Let them go through their process at their own pace, because they will come out of it. Know that you can recover from PTSD. This doesn't have to last forever. So please share this video if you know someone or if you think someone that you know has been involved in a traumatic event.

The more we know together the better, so Like this! Share it. Share your experiences below and keep working with me towards A healthy mind and a healthy body. Subtitles by the Amara.org community.

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